Giving Back to Rotary," David Staley, who recently returned from Spain, where he spent a year and a half as a Rotary Cultural Ambassadorial Scholar, studying classical guitar at the University of Salamanca. (Jim Owens)


Hard to believe! A Rotary year just about to end. Seems like yesterday that Steve Lingenbrink sent Otis Spleekmyer off to Rotary finishing school. The club is doing a good job on attendance. Keep it up and keep active.

End of the year means end of a quarter means the final month for paying your dues. Please check this out. You’ll get an email reminder later this week. Thanks.

Sir Josiah Stamp observed, “It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.”

Minutes from the latest meeting of the Values, Mission & Vision Committee

This report is included in the Reveille so that all who are interested can read, react and respond to what has been done to date. If you have any questions or comments, please contact contact Jim Zidar or Tom Smith.


The next meeting of the committee is scheduled for Monday, June 5.

Rotating the Wheels

BBRC Charity Golf Classic

Click on the names below to wish your fellow members a happy birthday or congratulate them on their BBRC anniversaries.


Jim Kindsvater, 06/03
Chip Erickson, 06/09
David Bolson, 06/11
Jim Carney, 06/11
Margie Burnett, 06/25
Chris Monger, 06/26
Alex Rule, 06/27
Alan Forney, 06/28


Kim Shrader, 17 yrs
Bob Holert, 16 yrs
Alex Rule, 11 yrs
Scott Sadler, 11 yrs
Jay Powers, 9 yrs
Steve Waltar, 8 yrs
Andrew Face, 5 yrs
Michael McIntosh, 2 yrs
Zul Alibhai, 1 yr

Bikes, Leather & Chains — SAYOKO CRACKS THE WHIP
Reveille ImageJune 30 is the final Friday of June this year. What better way to send the Lingenbrink admin on its way and greet the new leadership of Jim Zidar than by having a party that night? Sayoko Kuwahara, with a bunch of new tattoos, wearing leather and chains, gave a hefty promotion to the BBRC annual Rotating the Wheels Dinner. This one will be casual. Duh! The place is Glendale Country Club, with the festivities beginning at 6:00 p.m., dinner at 7:00 p.m. Jeans & T-shirt is the attire! The cost is $40 per person. Sign up online now on the website! Sayoko needs either a YES or NO for planning purposes.

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A Revetorial
Yes, we’re all busy. But in the last several years, club consensus has indicated an interest in continuing to schedule “Hands On” kinds of projects. Well, there was one this weekend in Preston. Problem was, only 5 members showed up from a list of 20 who’d earlier signed the sheet. This dictated how much work could reasonably be done in the time allotted (8:00AM to 12:00 noon, with a warning that it could go into the afternoon and that members were encouraged to attend at any time during the day), and also gave Chef Sue an idea of how many mouths to feed. Do you think that six boxes of Krispy Cremes is too many for five Rotarians? And four boxes of pizzas, in anticipation of those other 15 members making an appearance?

Were the directions too difficult and not clear? There may have been other mitigating circumstances and emergencies do happen. For years, the BBRC has helped families with a variety of needs get things done around their homes, or in this case, their day camp. With 115 members, you wouldd think we could have scared up more than five.

Good thing the YMCA thought this work crew was our entire club. And, we had help from Bob McKorkle’s family from Issaquah bolstering our numbers to eight.

Last year at the Rotating the Wheels Dinner, Ron Healey received the Rotarian of the Year award. Twenty years ago last month, Ron joined the BBRC. He has been a shining light of public service, a true heart for our neighbors in need. He is methodical about his selection of each year’s work sites. He’s looking for return on the BBRC investment of helping these people with no expectation in return. He’s absolutely uncanny in his expertise in anything connected with building. He is our reigning Rotarian of the Year.

For my money, Ron Healey should be Rotarian of the Year every year, and his wife should be Help Mate of the Year. The Healeys make the BBRC the best darned club in the world. Let’s not forget the role we all play in that.

— Your editor


John Mix


Jim Kindsvater, John Mix




Vol. 18, No. 49, JUNE 5, 2006

Click here for photos from the meeting.

The Friday Program:
Helping a Friend Who is Dying

Reveille ImageOur culture just doesn’t handle death and dying very well, the point well taken by Dr. Lani Leary Houck, PhD, a psychotherapist and former professor at George Mason University in Virginia and formerly a researcher at the National Cancer Institute.

Jim Gordon, who introduced her, posed the question, “So, I suppose you’re waiting for the military connection? (Jim is our contact for all things military). Well, Lani’s husband is a Vice Admiral and commands the 13th Naval District!”

Dr. Houck specializes in work with chronically ill, dying, and bereaved clients. She has worked the past 25 years as a psychotherapist in private practice, as a hospital chaplain in the intensive care unit, and as a counselor in six hospices across the country. She was a professor at George Mason University and has been a researcher at the National Cancer Institute of NIH.


Reveille PhotoFriday Potpourri

President Steve welcomed the large crowd by introducing Carlos Aragon, who gave the invocation and led the pledge to the flag.

David Bolson greeted several visiting Rotarians, including four members of the new Kirkland Breakfast Rotary which the BBRC has helped sponsor. Bill McCaulley, soon to be President of Shoreline Breakfast Rotary and soon to come under the wing of Assistant Governor Steve Lingenbrink, also was introduced.

Ernie Hayden has recovered from his injuries suffered in a fall at his home back in January and is rarin’ to get back in the Rotary saddle. He was welcomed with a loud burst of applause. Ernie has formally applied to the Board of Directors for reinstatement of his membership.

Reveille PhotoRotarian of the Month: Mitch Freedman

New member Mitch Freedman was recognized as the club’s newest Paul Harris Fellow, his generous act of supporting the Rotary Foundation with a gift of $1,000. President Steve said that Mitch had become a member of “one of best charitable organizations on the planet.”

For Mitch’s dedication as a new member, he also received the plaque for Rotarian of Month for June.

A round of gusto and enthusiasm greeted Mitch with this news!


Student of the Month: Aaron Thompson

Reveille ImageEastside Catholic High School is one of the institutions the BBRC supports throughout the year, particularly, the Student of the Month program. With Principal Greg Marsh and the student's mother on hand, Bob Holert introduced Aaron Thompson, the Student of the Month for June.

Aaron is active in sports and is a student leader and a community service leader. He is a senior and served as the Associated Student Body President this past year. He has a heart for the elderly, which perked up the antennas of about half the room.

Aaron will attend Brigham Young University next year.


A Micro Club Assembly: Club Service II

Reveille ImageTom Smith, Club Service II Director gave a new twist to the Mini Assembly by performing a Micro Assembly for the edification of the crowd. “Our mission is to get folks into the club, orient them, keep them, and care for them.” That could have been the end, but Steve Luplow wanted to make a report.

Steve was not there, but Tom filled in nicely for the Membership Development Chair. “Our big, new job is to create an atmosphere for members 35 and under.”

Reveille ImageRourke O’Brien is in charge Membership Coordination, which takes the Gold Card. Prospects, conducts a pre-application interview about expectations for joining, conducting a Classification inquiry, and if all is well, a “couple or three weeks go by prior to Board consideration and publication.”

Reveille ImageWayne McCaulley has captained the New Member Experience since its inception several years ago. This is a year-long orientation held the first Tuesday of each month at Jitters in Redmond. The purpose is to explore more deeply the inner-workings of the BBRC, as well as Rotary International.

Ruben Ladlad chairs the Membership Retention effort by being an “encouragement to all members who may lag in attendance. Our job is to keep them active. Our members are busy people and each is valuable to us.” Tom Smith announced that Ruben will retire on June 30, to be replaced by a “kinder, gentler Sayoko.” (Boy, she can sure wear all kinds of different hats, can’t she?)

Reveille ImageFinally, Dick Brown is Chair of Rotary Cares, an extension of the Family of Rotary committee. “This is the club’s largest committee. Everybody’s on it. When you hear or learn of a care or concern, you call me and we’ll express our concern to our wonderful members and their families. We are a family.”

Tom Smith closed his Micro Assembly saying that “we started the year with 109 and said we’d go for a net plus one. Looks like we’re a net plus six at 115! We’ve worked hard at what we do!


Charity Golf Classic Takes Flight

Reveille ImageThe beautiful weather is all arranged, the spikes are clean, and the golf carts ready for work so it must be time for the BBRC’s new Charity Golf Classic, set for 1:00 p.m. on Monday, July 17. This special BBRC fundraiser will be staged at the Willows Run Golf Course in Redmond. Entry fee is $175, which buys green fees, power cart, range balls, Cutter & Buck shirt and a choice of a free golf club. Players will also get a box lunch, and awards will follow the match. An 18-hole putting course will be available and a golf auction will take place during the awards ceremony. Prizes for a hole-in-one include a BMW Roadster and several golf vacation packages. There are also prizes for the longest drive, etc. Chairman Dick Brown urged members to “find three more people to join your foursome and enjoy a great day of golf. The club is working hard to fill the entry list with 144 golfers.”

Chuck Barnes and his Corporate Sponsorship Committee have designed a program for sponsoring activities surrounding the Golf Classic. Following is the list of the different opportunities:

Hole in One Sponsor Level: $5,000

  • BMW Roadster located at the par 3 hole selected by the corporate sponsor committee
  • Includes sponsor recognition on signs and posters on the hole, tee to green, & at the car
  • Premier recognition on all sales and marketing advertising
  • Includes logo on golf carts
  • Includes logo on closest-to-the-pin contest on the hole
  • Includes 4-some ($700 value)

Double Eagle Sponsor Level: $3,500

  • “Super Golf Package For Two” on one par 3 (other than the hole selected for the BMW)
  • Includes sponsor recognition, signs & posters, tee to green
  • Includes logo on closest to the pin contest on the hole
  • Highlight recognition on all sales and marketing advertising
  • Includes 4-some ($700 value)

Eagle Sponsor Level: $2,500

  • Sponsorship of a hole selected as a contest hole, signs and posters tee to green
  • Individual signs and posters for each sponsor
  • Recognition on all sales and marketing advertising
  • Includes 4-some ($700 value)

Birdie Sponsor Level: $1,000

  • Signage at the "putt putt" golf competition
  • Recognition on tournament day posters
  • Includes 2-some ($350 value)

General Sponsor Level $500

  • Signs/posters at the driving range
  • Shared sign recognition on one hole (excluding the major sponsored holes)
  • Includes one golf entry fee ($175 value)

Complimentary Hole Sponsor Level $200 (Non golfers)

  • Shared sign recognition on one hole (excluding the major sponsored holes)

Golf Pin Flag Sponsor $5,000 (SOLD-Microsoft)

  • All 18 holes will have the sponsor’s logo on the pin flag
  • Sponsor owns the flags and they go with the sponsor at the close of the tournament
  • Includes foursome ($700 value)
  • Logo Golf Gloves $2,500 (Includes 4-some $700 value) SOLD (Davis Wright Tremaine)

Committee Members:
Robin Callan, Howard Johnson, Rick Klobucher, Cary Kopczynski, Bob McKorkle, Rick McManus, Corr Pearce, John Sheeran, Chuck Barnes


Community Service Committee Hosts Work Party

Led by Ron Healey, a five-person team of Rotarians tackled some major building problems at Camp Terry, the YMCA Day camp located on the Raging River in Preston. The work party’s attention was focused on the camp administration building, which had some badly rotting decks. Under Ron’s direction, the old wood was removed and replaced by a set of treated wood steps and flooring. One section of a lower deck was shored up with a new post, set in concrete.

As Ron said, “there’s a lot of work to be done at this facility. We may have to pay another visit soon.”

Workers included Crew Chief Healey, Bob McKorkle, Kevin Jewell, Howard Johnson and John Mix. McKorkle also brought along his daughter Francine Weaver and sons Kyle and Ryan, all of Issaquah, who worked alongside their Rotary friends.

Boxes of hot Krispy Creme donuts, big muffins and hot coffee greeted the crew. At noon, four huge pizzas arrived. Sue Healey, as always, was in charge of this important part of the work party. CLICK HERE TO VIEW ORIGINAL PHOTOS FROM THIS SPECIAL EVENT


New Member Application Approved
for Publication: Candy Barroga

Candace “Candy” Barroga has had her application approved by the Board of Directors. Candy is a 3-year member of the Rotary Club of Fremont, where she has served as Treasurer. Her classification is “Mortgage Investment.” Her sponsor is Steve Lingenbrink.

Candy is married to Bob Igou and they live in Seattle. Her employer is Cedar River Mortgage, LLC, at the Bellevue office, a firm that specializes in Reverse Mortgages.

Candace has served as Treasurer and Board Member of the Wallingford Community Senior Center. She is serving as president of Literacy Source during 2006-2007, and she is a member of the National Reverse Mortgage Lenders Association. Candy likes to sing, enjoys caring for house plants, and walking. She is also a member of the Ballard Speakeasy Toastmasters.

Questions or comments regarding this proposed member should be directed to Tom Smith (Ph 425-451-8036) no later than Thursday, June 15, at 3:00 p.m.

According to club officials, the induction of four members will take place on Friday, June 23, 2006. The four include Ron Black, John Armenia, Ernie Hayden, and Candace Barroga. Armenia, Hayden and Barroga have previous Rotary membership.


Food For Thought: A Mayonnaise Jar & 2 Cups of Coffee

When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes." The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things — your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions — and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.”

”The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.”

The sand is everything else — the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."


The Friday Program:
Helping a Friend Who is Dying

Reveille ImageOur culture just doesn’t handle death and dying very well, the point well taken by Dr. Lani Leary Houck, PhD, a psychotherapist and former professor at George Mason University in Virginia and formerly a researcher at the National Cancer Institute.

Jim Gordon, who introduced her, posed the question, “So, I suppose you’re waiting for the military connection? (Jim is our contact for all things military). Well, Lani’s husband is a Vice Admiral and commands the 13th Naval District!”

Dr. Houck specializes in work with chronically ill, dying, and bereaved clients. She has worked the past 25 years as a psychotherapist in private practice, as a hospital chaplain in the intensive care unit, and as a counselor in six hospices across the country. She was a professor at George Mason University and has been a researcher at the National Cancer Institute of NIH.

Dr. Houck said, “You can make a different in someone else’s dying. However, you’ve got to seize the opportunity.” She went on to tell her audience about her mother dying when Lani was 13. “I did not get to say goodbye to her. I wasn’t even there and I’ve felt shortchanged all these years.” (Dr. Houck is currently writing Ten Things I Wished I'd Asked Her before She Died, due for publication soon.)

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Now, the story comes full circle. “My father died two years ago. Because I was part of his dying, I feel a sense of fullness and gratitude that I was able to make a difference in how he left. My grief was substantially different than my brothers who couldn’t be present.”

Her message to Rotarians is to “make a difference by understanding what the dying need.”

“We can make a difference to ourselves by starting right now to deal with our own deaths. We belong to such a death-denying society. We don’t want to see it ... we’d rather leave a loved one in the hospital. Since we don’t talk about it, we don’t do it well. Knowing and understanding about death and dying can be our final gift to our loved ones.”

Lani noted that our Rotary club has an initiative called Care & Concern. “If one of your own is terminally ill, your club makes a point to express your care and concern. There is no unfinished business here.”

“You can make another big difference by your presence. I have had the privilege of being with over 500 people as they died. Part of your presence is to be comfortable with them, and be comfortable with the silence. Make sure we don’t let our agenda be the agenda for their dying. Quiet is important. Listen ... a painful part of dying is their loneliness. No one is asking questions. Presence is about joining with their experience. The dying can say that no one is here to hold my dying with me. I will hold it with you and be able to hear what you’re experiencing.”

When Lani’s father called her to tell her that “the pneumonia is now cancer. I closed down my classes and put aside six months to be with him. I literally closed down my life. Now he could say, ‘Lani’s home, and everything’s going to be okay now.' I became his Chief Advocate. I felt much like a midwife.”

Now, Dr. Houck could help her father by understanding what the dying need. “They want competent care. They want to trust the doctors and nurses. It’s a very vulnerable time. You have the opportunity to act as a go-between with the medical, nursing staff and your family member. Should we have chemo? What would that do as I try to beat this illness?”

The dying want compassion, not sympathy. Sympathy can be distancing. Make it empathy. Having compassion while forgiving his anger when the illness starts to take some of his personality away.

Communications with the loved one recognizes that he wants to be included in the conversations. “We don’t know how much time you have left ... what do you want to do with that time? He wants to ride his horse, go sailing, he wants to see a friend. You can set up a hospice at home which allows the family to come home and grieve.”

Lani sat down with her father and went through his scrap books. “We talked about how to write his obituary. Let him or her dictate what their legacy might be.”

The dying want a physical connection. They need touching. Massage his/her back. Help him one with a clean undershirt…touch, touch, touch. It’s so healing. Hold his hand. It’s okay to touch.

The dying want an emotional connection. They want dignity. Think of the dying person as a whole person. Give them space and time to say goodbye to loved ones.

They also need permission to die. They need to hear that it’s okay to die. That the person is not letting the family down by dying. “My father’s last morning began with him saying, ‘I’m such a burden.’ I breathed with him, I told him thank you for being my father. I told him ‘I love you.’ Then, his eyes opened wide and he stared at a far-off place. I told him to go to her — Mom — giving him my permission.”

You can make a difference and start right now. Develop a death competency. Don’t shy away from people who are dying or the subject of death. Have you written your own will? Will you make an organ donation? Have you communicated all of your final wishes to your family? Make these decisions now. Life with my father has ended, but his relationship continues. I had a special time with him and now it my job to take care of his sons, his friends.

It’s just death ... not the end.

Reveille ImageDr. Houck had time for one question. She was asked about sudden death. “Sudden death is numbing. It takes a long time to get over it. The best way to handle that is to prepare for it. Live your life today as if you’ll die tomorrow.”

Rotarians will remember Dr. Lani Houck’s talk for a long time to come. Proof of that was the outline she provided, which was snapped up by members at each table.

Dr. Houck accepted a certificate noting that the BBRC had donated a book in her name to the King County Library System in support of their Ready-to-Read program.

Thanks to Jim Gordon for his introduction.



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